How to Release Stress and Lose Weight in 1 Hour a Day!

This is a quick video from Tempe, Arizona on releasing stress in just one hour a day!  Also, a great side benefit is toning and losing weight.  Watch the video to learn how I deal with stress and tone the body.

The 7 things happy women do differently in their lives

It is no surprise that happy women live their lives differently. They don’t have different lives. They just do a better job at living a fulfilling, passionate life than those who are unhappy.

Many women look for happiness outside of themselves.  They are always searching for some “thing” or some person to make them happy.  We cannot control the cards that our dealt to us from the ‘Deck of Life’.  However, we can control our reactions or the choices we made that created our situation.  It is the choices you make that ultimately lead to your happiness!

1.  They don’t please everyone because they are not worried about who likes them.

They are not people pleasers.  They like their “own skin”.  It doesn’t matter to them if you like them or not.  They definitely don’t need your approval.  After all, if you don’t love yourself then how can you expect others to like you?   So what steps can you take today to love yourself more?

2. They are humble and great at communicating what they value in life.

When you first meet them, they will tell you where they have traveled, what is happening in their lives, or mention their families.   They don’t talk about how successful they are, their work or the initials after their name.   They talk about what they really value in life such as their pets, family, or their vacations!  More importantly, they share positive things or if it is a challenge then they will talk about the solutions they are implementing.  Happy women do not complain!

3.  They live in the present.

While most of us live in the past (what could have been) or worry about the future, these successful women are fully present to the moment.  Their awareness is completely centered on the here and now. The past and the future are illusions that don’t exist!  Happy people do have hopes, dreams and goals, but they don’t allow themselves to get caught up and lost in them.

 Have you ever driven somewhere but you don’t know how you got there?  Many times you get lost in your thoughts and go on autopilot.  Tomorrow when you drive to work instead of going on autopilot, notice 5 new things along the way. We also do these while we cook meals, wash the dishes, watch tv, take a shower, and other tasks. Observe how often you are not living in the present moment!  Successful women live in the present, which reduces stress. While it does take energy to be in the moment it also creates energy too!

4. Happy, successful women live life they way they want to live

They don’t follow the “Jones’s”.  They do exactly what it is that they want to be doing.  They make choices about how and the way they want to be.  They trust themselves and believe in their own inner wisdom.  They value their opinion more so than their friends or family. They do Not spend time worrying about who is going to judge them 

5. They see the world as their Stage and their mind as the Director.

They believe they are the creators of their reality.  Happy successful women know that they have full control over what they interpret or perceive.  In fact, they have full awareness over their thoughts and how important it is to think positive thoughts!  They understand the power of positive thinking and the Laws of Attraction!  They keep their vibrations high.  They are watch uplifting movies, play uplifting music and most importantly, hang with uplifting supportive people!.

6.  They walk to the beat of their own Spiritual drum.

They judge only themselves as they value honesty, integrity, and compassion.  They know what is right and wrong.  They have their own philosophies and spiritual beliefs.  Those spiritual beliefs could be God, Buddha, Native American, Celtic, Pagan, Muslim, or Nature!  They have a connection with source that they believe in.

7.  Happy women invest in themselves.

They know they’re only human and must take care of themselves before taking care of others.   They do this to fuel their bodies so that they have more to give to all of their relationships. Why? Because you have heard the expression that you must put on your oxygen mask before assisting others, so pamper yourself. In order to have the mental and physical energy to give to others, women need to give to themselves first.  If you don’t value yourself or look out for yourself, then don’t expect others to do it for you!  You are sabotaging yourself if you don’t take care of yourself first.   I promise you will have so much more to give by taking care of your needs!

You can take walks especially in nature, go biking or hiking, meditate, go yoga class, take hot baths, treat yourself to a date night at a fabulous restaurant, get a massage, get a manicure, get a pedicure or what ever else makes you feel special!

If you start by doing one step at a time and continue to do it, it will become a habit.  You can learn new habits to replace the “not so good ones”.  In addition, you will be a happier woman! 

What are some things you do to invest in yourself and be happy?  Please leave a comment below!  In addition, if you want more tips on less stress, sign up for my free report up above “7 Steps Successful Women Use to Stay Calm During Chaos”.

 

Purpose, Prosperity, Retreats, and Transformations!

The retreat (Purpose & Prosperity Mastermind Retreat) facilitated by my coach Paula Houlihan this weekend was the experience of a lifetime!  According to Paula, “A retreat is a time to come together in sisterhood, committed to the purpose of expansion, transformation and connection”.

Years ago, I had low self-esteem and felt unworthy.  I had issues around abandonment and rejection.  I was a care taker and sought approval from anyone.  I lived an overstressed, overwhelmed, and overworked life.  Sound familiar?  As if that was not enough, I have had several losses in my life including my parents, grandparents, niece, and my Identical Twin.  In the last ten years, I was blessed to have had good mentors, counselors and now, a fabulous coach!

I came to the retreat at Sundara Spa with an open mind and ready to relax.  The retreat was taking place at an awesome spa in Wisconsin known for their unique services.  I was treated like a queen!  My feather bed was turned down each night and a piece of organic orange and lavender caramel lay on my feather pillow.  I truly enjoyed the 8 Jet Body Spa Shower and the 75” Kohler whirlpool.  It was luxurious!  Pure decadence!

The spa cuisine was healthy, organic and artfully prepared.  The cuisine I indulged in included hummus, Spa Salad, Luscious fruit platter, veggie plate, yogurt, and a Sundara wrap with grilled chicken.  Of course, I had a glass of pinot noir with dinner.  Other delectable dishes included grilled salmon, Cornish game hen, crab cakes, house made guacamole, desserts, Australian lamb, and petite filet mignon.  The cucumber, lemon and orange water were terrific!  I especially love the cucumber water (water with cucumbers in it and what a flavor!).

Now that you know the decadent, nourishing, environment……….it is time to talk about the transformations! I made some great connections to brilliant women as we shifted and expanded together.  I shifted old beliefs especially about my body!  Janelle Maguire is an amazing talented photographer who brings out the brilliance and beauty in everyone!  I was so amazed at the beautiful pictures after the photo shoot.  For the first time, I saw my beauty in those pictures.  I looked radiant!  Now, how many of you can say that after having pictures taken?  An extraordinary photographer makes all the difference, hint….hint!

My soul expanded as did my vision and purpose.  I am filled with love and light and ready to serve women on a whole new level.  My beliefs around money and self-worth were transformed.  My spiritual Goddess has emerged!  I am ready to share my gifts with the world and be visible!  I assist women in eliminating their bandaids (drinking, drugs, overeating, workaholic, shopaholic, etc…) by transforming their fears, stress and negative beliefs into self-love, peace and joy.

My soul is alive and filled with love!  The colors of the rainbow are dancing in my spirit as my heart sings with pure bliss, knowing I am on my path and making a difference in the world.  I am filled with love, gratitude, passion, and joy.  How blessed I am for connecting with my kindred sisters soul to soul in this magnificent transformational journey!  Blessings to All!!!

If any of this resonates with you, please share in the comments below!  I would love to hear your thoughts.  If you have a kindred sister who could benefit from this post, please share!

New Year’s Resolutions = New Me?

We reflect back on 2013 as the New Year begins and thus, we create our resolutions. “I will quit smoking”, “I will lose weight”, “I will exercise 4-5 days a week”, “I will eat healthier”, “I will get more sleep”, “I will not work too much”, “I will meditate every day” and on the resolutions go. We are enthusiastic and have good intentions to follow them and yet, many of us will fail. In fact, the research shows that only 10-15% will be successful.

For me, it is more challenging because I have a birthday on January 2nd so a new year also means another year older with New Year’s Resolutions.. My inner critic committee goes something like this, “You should know better! You are another year older! Stop eating sweets, and exercise more! Why can’t you follow your resolutions?” So I tell my inner critic committee to sit down and shut up!

Why? Because our resolutions do not deeply connect with our inner souls! We make resolutions or goals about long-range behaviors which reinforces the notion of living in the future rather than in the present moment. This is self-defeating at best since many people will resolve that it is only going to be difficult several days or weeks from now so “what’s the use?” in keeping them? Many people equate resolutions with making a to do list that is short lived. Yet, they make resolutions for what they want next September. If these resolutions do not align with our inner soul, then we won’t keep doing them.

Resolutions are like frosting on a cake. They only address the superficial “want” without touching the heartfelt center. Generally, we state something like I will DO exercise 5 times a week so I can have a thinner body and look good, and then I will BE confident. It is a short term to do list by September nine months later!

To be more successful in creating lasting, positive changes in your is the BE-DO-HAVE model. By looking at the model from a place of BE first, gives us a deeper meaning and answers the “why”. This creates sustainable, lasting positive behaviors after the newness has worn off. Resolve to live in the present ~ anyone can do something Just for Today. So, “Just for Today” live in the present and set up a behavior goal such as not eating sugar, exercising, going to the gym. Ask yourself “How do I want to BE today and then live by those traits”. At the end of the day, the new you can write down 5 things you are grateful for and guess what? Tomorrow is a new you and a new day by which to make decisions!

Try A NEW New Year’s Ritual

There are a number of alternative approaches to marking the beginning of the New Year. Here are a few:

Make a vision board

Choose a Word of the Year(my past words include: Wellness, Passion, Change, Action, Effortlessness, Growth, Abundance, Wealth, Health, Creativity, Freedom, Purpose, Trust, Passion, Acceptance, Forgiveness, Release and Gratitude)

Create a vision board around your powerful word

Make a video slideshow vision board of your word with Animoto

So why not try a new ritual this year and choose a Word of the Year? Be sure to set aside some quiet time perhaps with candles and soft lighting. Mindfully sit with the questions in this guide and then answer them. I usually schedule an hour or so without any interruptions.

Once you’ve chosen your word, be present with it in your heart and mind throughout the year. Let it teach you to take action toward your dream for 2014.
I’d love hear about your successes and discoveries! Please feel free to post a comment below!

Five Tips For Getting Unstuck and Start Living Your Life on Purpose

I have been fortunate in my life to have gone to college and have gotten several interesting jobs that have helped me to grow as a person.  I began at the age of 16 as waitress in the local café where my training began on customer service.  Yep, you got it as it was not the easy way to learn that technique!  However, after going to college my jobs were far more fun and interesting.  I taught in a private all girls’ school.  I was a naturalist for the Audubon Society and taught people about the natural history in Massachusetts.  I was a program director at a 4-H environmental camp for kids ages 4-18.  Then I became an Executive Director of a similar camp.  I thought I had made it to my dream job.  Then as the politics got tougher and I realized I was more of a people person, I switched to public school teaching.  It paid more money, had great benefits and I was a role model for young adults once again.  Again, I thought that this was my dream job.  For 13 years it was great and then I hit the mental plateau!

You see, most people are not aware that they are stuck in a rut until they are in deep.  That is because we all follow our default settings or repetitive patterns on autopilot.  We began to ask questions like “Is this as good as it gets?”   By the way, everyone has been stuck at some point in their life especially if you are over 40!  You can be stuck in a job, stuck in a relationship, stuck in your business, stuck in your fitness routine or day to day activities.

Why are you stuck?  You are stuck because you are not aware of your default settings.  You might be stuck because you don’t want to change and you like your comfort zone.  That’s why people stay in bad relationships, bad jobs and bad habits.  So, once you are aware you are stuck (and you are aware since you reading this article), then here are five tips to getting unstuck and start living your life on purpose.

TIP 1:  Change one thing

Albert Einstein defines Insanity as doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.  This means that you are deeply engulfed in repetitive bad habits or what I call your default settings.  So, start by doing baby steps and change just one thing.  Perhaps you want to walk every day for 15 minutes.  You can make time for you even if it is 10 minutes a day.  If you always come home after work and watch tv, try taking a walk or reading an inspirational book.  If you always eat lunch with your co-workers, go for a walk at lunch time twice a week.  Other things you could do include scheduling a massage, taking a hot bath, doing yoga or anything else to invest in you.  Remember, just change one thing to start your journey to a life of purpose and passion.  

Tip 2:  Live in the Now

Have you ever driven somewhere but you don’t know how you got there?  Many times you get lost in your thoughts and go on autopilot.  Tomorrow when you drive to work instead of going on autopilot, notice 5 new things along the way.  It takes energy to be in the moment but the good news is that it creates energy too!

Tip 3:  Think of a time in your life when you were successful and happy.  How did you feel?  See if you can recreate those feelings by remembering one or two things that contributed to that success.  Chances are you were not in your ‘default settings’.  You took a chance, a risk, and guess what?  You were happy and successful.  You might not be able to create the entire situation, but remember as much as you can and what it felt like to be successful.

Tip 4:  “Attention Goes Where Energy Flows” 

Quantum physicists state that everything is energy.  My coach Christine Kane says that “Energy Flows where Attention Goes.”  It is the Law of Attraction.  Remember Like Attracts Like.  What you focus on expands.   Whenever you catch yourself in moments of lack thoughts such as “I don’t have enough” “I am not good enough” “I am not smart enough” then shift your attention to what you DO want.  A baby step to get to that point is “wouldn’t it be nice if I had a new car?”  “Wouldn’t it be nice if my husband cooked dinner tonight?”  “Wouldn’t it be nice if the kids got along tonight?”  Focus on more of what you want in your life instead of what you don’t want.

Tip 5:  Write a powerful Intention

Research shows that by writing something down, the actual motion of your hand engages your brain in deeper learning.  Also, your voice is very powerful so by reading out loud will engage your brain as well.  This will help you focus on positive things for your life.  An intention is defined by Wayne Dyer as a field of energy that you can access to begin co-creating your life with the power of intention.  Most of us say things like “I am feeling insane for quitting a great job with benefits to start a business.  Please help me not to be a failure.”

This is not strong and does not serve our intention to attract positive things.  A more powerful intention would be “I intend success and prosperity as I begin a new exciting path in my life.”  This puts you in a mindset to see more opportunities and take action steps to a more successful life.

So, when you realize you are stuck in a rut, don’t look outside yourself for the answer.  It starts with you.  Follow these five steps and you will be amazed at what happens.

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