Romantic Relationships that Prepare Us for True Love

Our “in the meantime relationships” before meeting our true love actually prepares us for that right relationship. In these relationships our stories are mirrored to us, as every person that stands before us is our mirror.

These relationships that are preparing us cause us to question everything, especially ourselves. We ask why, what could I have done differently and we continue to “beat ourselves up”. Instead, we could look inward and ask:

What have I learned about myself?

What is the lesson or gold nugget that I am taking away from this experience?

Every relationship gives us the opportunity to do our soul work. The purpose of this journey is not to find someone to complete us, but to discover ourselves. I know that with each of my relationships I have more understanding, depth, authenticity and honesty.   I am willing to look at my shadow parts with love and acceptance.

For me life is a journey where I am always growing, transforming, shedding my fears and weaknesses. I know that if I devote my heart to discovering what I am here to learn, I can be my own best friend and love myself.

It is that self-love that allows me to come to my relationships in a healthy place with so much more to give. It allows me to be with my best friend not attached or dependent on this person.

There are no fears and there is no jealousy, no doubt, no guilt, no judgment—just being.

With each relationship we have the opportunity to grow and learn. We are also invited to keep our heart open to love while practicing forgiveness and compassion. Remember forgiveness is for us to release our fears and judgments.

This allows us to experience greater love each time until we meet the person who also has an open heart in which we can deeply connect with acceptance, love, compassion and authenticity.

Please comment below. I would love to hear about your experiences. For more tips on living a stress free life, clean eating or relationships sign up for my FREE audio and ebook above.

Take Action by Confidently Selecting a Coaching Program with Clarity and Intention.

By Lauren Ebbecke ©2012

“Clarity to Chaos”  “Find your tribe”  “Teach Now” “Creating Peace in the Midst of Stress” “How to Publish A Number One Seller” “Drama to Dharma” “Awaken Your Life Purpose”  “Live Your Authentic Life” “Grow Your Business” “Clarify Your Vision” and these are just a few of the programs I have glanced at!!!

It all started after I had taken a wonderful course on Upleveling my life with Christine Kane.  I am one of those people that has to absorb the information and continue to work it for the rest of my life.  As I started to grow personally, I realized that I wanted to live an authentic, balanced, happy life and follow my dreams.  After beginning the next program, I realized I truly needed to dive in, roll up my sleeves and get serious.  So, much to the dismay of my colleagues I quit my full time job with benefits, picked up a temporary job to pay the bills and began my journey.  I am currently in the Gold Mastermind program which I love.

Now, being like most people these days, I want success today!  So, I found myself not only working my program but searching the web and exploring every “Freebie” that promised to assist me in being a successful entrepreneur.  Several were great as I learned quite a bit about technology like blogging, attracting more traffic and videotaping!  I was bookmarking websites, watching webinars and teleseminars, reading “freebies” and then……… it hit me!  I could make a career out of researching these programs as I was procrastinating instead of creating my business!  Aarrgghh!!!

So what was driving me?  Doubt?  Fear? Insecurity?  I realized that my actions were not exactly in alignment with my purpose, but with my fears.  You know – those voices that say “What if it doesn’t work?” “What if I don’t attract enough clients?” “Who AM I  to think I could be successful?” “Why aren’t people reading my blogs or commenting?” Maybe I should get a full time job again.   Ever have these thoughts?

Breathe deep.  Get ClearCommit to your program and business with attention, intention and clarity! Don’t second guess yourself, surf the web for “a quicker way” or procrastinate by watching one more free video to help you achieve your success quicker!  There is no fast way to your dream.  There is no quick “Pill” to fix this – just good old fashion work and commitment.  According to Benjamin Disraeli, “The secret of success is consistency of purpose”.  In my case, it is consistency to my program as I systematically create my business.

Don’t misunderstand me—there are some really good other programs out there!  Sometimes it feels like you are at the grocery store looking at 12 different brands of orange juice!  What a choice.  My point??  Once you commit to a program that resonates your inner soul, follow through!!!  “The Fortune is in the Follow Through” as I heard on my Q&A Training Call today.  Although this message was applied to another technique, it very much applies this situation.  I signed up for this wonderful program and I plan on following through on my commitment!

So in the comments below, please share those moments that helped you get back on track with your program and become aligned with your life’s purpose.

A Soulful Journey of Change with Confidence

By Lauren Ebbecke ©2012

It is Fall…. that time of year when leaves change color, the air turns colder, and days are shorter.  It spells CHANGE.  I have spent many an Autumn thinking, talking and dreaming of what my life might look like  “if       only…”.  If only I would exercise regularly, if only I would stick to eating healthy, if only I could find a job I truly love, if only I could find time to meditate, if only I could find my ”NorthStar”, my true calling, or  life purpose.  My intentions are good and I always start a routine.  Somehow time passes by and I am still searching for my dream…….

Ever feel like this?  This was the year I set my intention and decided to take action.  This was the year I quit my full-time job and began to fully create the life I have always dreamed of.  I was listening to my inner soul.  Yes, my intuition.  The fears come up, the negative voices come up, the challenges are there and yet, I continue on my path to a better life and to self-discovery.

I have never looked back and I am happy.  I have more time to spend with my beloved dog, Sage as well as friends.  I eat well, sleep well, and exercise.  I am investing in me.  Women tend to nurture and support everyone else around them, but we are not good about investing in ourselves.  We are also not confident in our decisions and especially with CHANGE.  Better yet, do you have the courage to change or step out of the box?  Our sandbox has become our comfort zone and we must step out of the box in order to grow.  So here are five tips to embrace change.

1.  Get Clear and set an intention.   Get clear about what you want to change and why.  Then set an intention to do so.  Make the intention simple.  My intention this summer was to find a part-time job that I enjoyed and could pay my bills, and then I would resign from my stressful full-time job.  Of course I had to define jobs that I would doing short term.  I got very clear as to why I wanted to leave my job and what type of working environment I wanted.  I said my intention out loud every morning and before I went to bed.

2. Be prepared for those old Habits and Mindsets.  “So you think you can really pull this off?  What will your friends say? Family?”  “I am not good enough” or “You should be perfectly happy as you have a decent job”.  Ah yes, the wonderful ego that tries hard to protect us.    One of my coaches said, “if your gut tells you yes, but you feel the fear… anyway”.  One of my favorite books is “Feel the Fear, Do it Anyway” by Susan Jeffers.

3.  Don’t Criticise yourself.  We are our own worst critics and we often think things are worse than they really are!!!  We want to be liked and fit in.  when something feels uncomfortable, our panel of judges arise to let us know that we aren’t doing the “right way” or the “way our elders did it”.  Acknowledge your shadows.  I typically say “I hear you, but I am choosing to better my life”.    I got that line from my mentor Christine Kane and it has proven to be one of the most powerful affirmations in my life.

4.  As the old zen saying goes, “Leap and the Net shall appear”.  Yes, this was another saying from my mentor that has served me well.  Women who take risks will grow and move ahead.  As Albert Einstein states, “Insanity: doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results”.  So make a change and if it doesn’t feel good or it is not the right one, CHANGE it.  Yes, you can make another change!  This leads me to the next tip.

5.  Fail Forward!!! Too often when we make mistakes, we tend to blame ourselves or think poorly of ourselves.  We are not our mistakes.  Remember the Law of Attraction:  You attract the energy that is most like you.  In this case, Like Attracts Like!!!  So practice affirmations and feelings of abundance and success.  Successful people pick themselves up and keep going forward knowing they are not their mistakes.  As someone once said, “What you think, you are”.  Monitor your thoughts.  What are you thinking right now?  Is it positive or negative?  Think positive and fail forward.  Practice courage and confidence.



What changes have you made lately?  I would be interested in reading about them.  Feel free to leave a comment below.


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